Why Do We Hurt Those We Love Most And How (Part 2)

 

Why Do We Hurt Those We Love Most And How

We can do this by playing the victim (Oh poor me, look at all that I do, and nobody is grateful! Look how good I am, and still life strikes me with disapproval, disease, and misery! Oh oh!). Or we get attention by being aggressive, shouting, and trying to dominate the other one. A third mechanism is harassing the other one by asking too many questions and controlling him. A fourth system is playing silence, refusing contact, not speaking, and not reacting, so the other will do whatever he can to get in touch with you again, which will give you his energy.

These systems will, of course, make the energy of the other one flow your way. But what next? The other is now low on energy and wants to get his power back. So now, his mechanism is triggered by his lack of energy. He will now use the system that assured him of his parents' point when he was little to get his power back from you. He will either shout at you, either playing the poor one that didn't deserve your treatment, either torture you with a bunch of questions, or refuse contact.

Why Do We Hurt Those We Love Most And How (Part 1)

 

Why Do We Hurt Those We Love Most And How (Part 1)

Why Do We Hurt Those We Love Most And How To Stop This?

 

You love each other but can't manage to communicate without arguing, fighting, and ending up exhausted, each one in his corner, trying to lick his wounds and thinking of how to protect oneself against a new attack. And despite that, you love each other? How is this possible? Why do people hurt most those they love?

 

How come we can express our love? How come we are full of good intentions, but when it comes to reality, we find ourselves again shouting and blaming the other one. And then that monster of guilt jumps out of nowhere to our throat to strangle us once again.

 

How to stop this infernal behavior?

First, let me explain why this happens.

 

We all need energy. We need the energy to live and to survive. Power comes in many forms: love, attention, interest, food, friendship, money, approval, recognition.

Alone But Not Lonely

Alone But Not Lonely

In today's fast-paced society, we've become accustomed to filling the eeriness of silence with fluff. We turn to many distractions to escape feelings of idleness or boredom. But the main thing we wish to elude is loneliness. Solitude does not have to be alienating or lonesome. Isolation and loneliness are distinctly separate.

 

The death of a loved one or the inability to find people who understand you can leave you feeling isolated. Webster's dictionary plainly describes loneliness as being without companions. It's natural to experience an emptiness while longing for love or acceptance. Loneliness is, therefore, an emotional state that can be experienced whether or not one is physically alone.

 

It was Geoffrey F. Fisher who said, In cities, no one is quiet, but many are lonely; in the country, people are peaceful, but few are lonely.

The Art Of Silence: Meditation Techniques

The Art Of Silence: Meditation Techniques

In today’s fast-paced world, many people seek a way to get away from it all and relax. Meditation, which is essentially a method to obtain a level of deep thought and relaxation, is one way to find inner peace and tranquility. Many think of monks or other spiritual types sitting in crossed-leg positions and reaching states of bliss when they think of mediation, but there are many ways to meditate. While there are many ways to achieve a meditative state, there are no right or wrong ways to meditate (this would defeat the purpose); only practice and find ways that feel right for you.

 

Meditation is associated with many religions, but one does not need to be associated with any particular religion to meditate. However, you might want to investigate different methods to find a form of mediation that feels most comfortable. One standard way includes repeating a sound or word, called a mantra. Other forms of meditation involve focusing on a visual image, such as the flame of a candle or a symbol. Other meditative techniques involve breathing and physical movements, such as yoga or breathing practices.

The Power Of Your Subconscious Mind

The Power Of Your Subconscious Mind

Scientists say that we only use 10% of our minds. Think about what I just said. We use only 10% of our minds! We are wasting the other 90%. Think of it this way. What if we only used 10% of our salary? Could we survive on 10% of our salary? No way, unless you Bill Gates. What about eating only 10% of the food we make? Wouldn’t that be a waste of food? What if we slept only 10% of 8 hours or 80 minutes a day? Could we survive? What if we had only 10% of the oxygen that was available? Could we survive? The answer to all these questions is a resounding NO!

 

So why do we put up with using only 10% of our brain? Look at your life. Are you living the life you want? On your terms? Are you happy with what you’ve created, or do you think it could be better? The chances are that you are living to only 10% of your abilities. What if you could make your life 100, 500, or 1,000% better? I can hear you now saying, ”That’s impossible” or “that’s too hard to do.” If you did say that, you’re repeating the same pattern in your life: you are using only 10% of your brain or less.

Become Your Own Relaxation Expert

 

Become Your Own Relaxation Expert

Meditation has been practiced around the world for thousands of years. It is a technique used to quiet the mind and body and release stress. It can also bring focus and clarity, and often, after meditating, problems that you have been struggling with miraculously become solved. Meditation has also inspired people to write and spur lucrative business ideas as your subconscious comes to light.

 

One simple form of meditation requires you to sit in a quiet room, either on a pillow, cross-legged on the floor, or in a comfortable chair, making sure your spine is straight. It is advised that you use the same place every day. It is also suggested that you personalize your spot by beautifying it with candles, flowers, and pictures of the people you love.

 

The idea is to sit quietly, with your eyes closed, and focus on a point inside of your forehead. Try not to think of anything in particular, but don’t try ‘not’ to think either, allowing your mind to become calm and peaceful. If you find that your mind is ‘chattering,’ don’t try to control it; just let it finish what it is working on; it will eventually quiet down. It is also recommended that beginners begin with ten to twenty-minute sessions each day. After doing this, you will start to feel deep relaxation and joy during these sessions.