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| Why Do We Hurt Those We Love Most And How |
We can do this by playing the victim (Oh poor me, look at all that I do, and nobody is grateful! Look how good I am, and still life strikes me with disapproval, disease, and misery! Oh oh!). Or we get attention by being aggressive, shouting, and trying to dominate the other one. A third mechanism is harassing the other one by asking too many questions and controlling him. A fourth system is playing silence, refusing contact, not speaking, and not reacting, so the other will do whatever he can to get in touch with you again, which will give you his energy.
These systems will, of course, make the energy of the other one flow your way. But what next? The other is now low on energy and wants to get his power back. So now, his mechanism is triggered by his lack of energy. He will now use the system that assured him of his parents' point when he was little to get his power back from you. He will either shout at you, either playing the poor one that didn't deserve your treatment, either torture you with a bunch of questions, or refuse contact.
This explains why we hurt the ones we love. The first reason is we want their energy, energy they gave once for free. We break our loved ones most because they gave us love and power and attention for free in the beginning, and now we have to do it on our own, and we are angry and want to get back to them. We think we are entitled to have their energy for free and start our mechanism to get it. The second reason we hurt them most is convenience: they are always around, their power is available, so when we are low on energy, we try to rip their energy off and hurt them by doing that.
Stealing energy from another human being is hurting him.
What can we do about this? We should only contact other people when we are sure to be already filled up with energy so that we won't steal theirs. When we are full of energy and conscious of what happens between people, we can give the other power instead of ripping him off. We should not meet each other when we are low on energy. Its the responsibility of every person to generate energy by himself and not depend on other people.
How to do that? By connecting to the energy that is always available. That is the energy of the Universe. The easiest way to connect to this energy is to contemplate the beauty of a flower. You also can consider the beauty of an object or a person. You can listen to beautiful music, take a walk in nature, meditate, pray, dance, paint, read positive texts, work on your mission on earth, love your cat or dog, anything that gives you energy.
Make a list of every activity and behavior that increases your energy level. As soon as you feel you conflict with your partner, boss, child, parent, or whoever, do something to get yourself together and raise your energy. Don't say anything until your energy level is high enough to send power to the other. By sending energy, you are sure not to steal energy from the other. This is an act of love. If you cannot get your energy level any higher, go to another place, do something for you and wait until your vibrations are high enough to meet the other one again.
The important thing in a relationship is not to make the other happy or expect the other one to make you happy, but to make yourself comfortable and offer this happiness as a gift to the other!
Loving another human being is giving him energy!
See the difference? Do you want to love your loved ones or steal their energy?
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