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| 5 Tips to Keep a Marriage Exciting |
The buildup to the wedding is exciting; making arrangements and laying out a plan for your future lives together. But after the honeymoon ends, life begins. And while you may have the most beautiful marriage, even the most devoted couple is sure to find the married lifestyle to be at times, well, let's say, less than exciting. I mean, let's face it, you love the other person, but spending all day with the same individual makes for a lot of routine activities, that if you are not careful, can drag on your relationship and make you both feel unsatisfied with what is otherwise a very loving relationship.
As a result, it is vital that couples not simply sit back in the belief that a marriage will remain exciting merely on its momentum. Instead, spouses must take some basic steps to infuse their relationships with a bit of excitement.
1. Have Independent Interests
Having independent interests is not a sign of a weak marriage, as some newlyweds believe, but rather a sign of its strength. You cannot have anything interesting to say if you spend every waking moment doing and experiencing the same things. Having separate interests means that you have something unique to bring to conversations, ensuring that you both always have something interesting, and yes, exciting, to say to one another.
2. Spontaneous Events
While you were dating, planning the spontaneous event seemed somewhat innate. But, as we grow comfortable in our relationships and busier by life's obligations, we tend to rely upon the strength of our relationships and, in so doing, fail to keep things spontaneous. So to mix things up, plan an afternoon or evening event that is entirely new. Try showing your spouse has been dying to see or visit that new restaurant that just opened up.
3. Never threaten separation
This is less a rule to keep things exciting and more to keep them sound. A relationship can only grow and remain exciting if both parties are confident in their commitment to one another. Consequently, make it a rule between you and your partner that you never threaten separation or divorce. Establish an understanding that you should be heading out the door to back it up if you threaten separation. It is a harsh rule, but one that needs imposition if your relationship is to survive the ups and downs which are a part of all marriages.
4. Weekend Trips
One sure-fire way to inject some romance into your marriage is to take a vacation with just the two of you. But with the rigors of life and the costs of a trip, a full-blown vacation can seem hard to justify. So instead, opt for a one-night local vacation. Plan a dinner and evening out, and cap it off with a night in a hotel. The expense isn't a lot, considering the excitement that a trip, no matter how small, can bring into a relationship.
5. Spice up the bedroom
The final tip to bring excitement into any relationship is to spice things up in the bedroom. Your sex life has a strong correlation with the strength and satisfaction of your relationship. So try exploring a new position or even a sexual fantasy or adult toy with your partner, and in so doing, share something intimate and bring some excitement into your marriage.
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